I want to invite you to a fearless, ongoing dialogue about what you truly want from your love relationship, how that may change in years to come, and how you and your partner will navigate these opportunities and challenges with respect, compassion, and confidence.
Cultural messages about love provide little practical guidance about how to craft fulfilling relationships that stand the test of time. There’s a lot of uncharted territory between “happily ever after” and “till death do us part,” and many of us have only been privy to family behaviors that serve as wrong-way indicators. That was certainly my experience.
When I divorced at age 33, I doggedly searched for couples with healthy relationships to enlist as mentors. I discovered only a few couples who were content with the life they’d created, and even they had very little solid advice to follow. They were unconsciously competent; they attributed relationship success to fate or good luck or having been raised by happy parents, but they couldn’t articulate the everyday practices that helped them build and maintain vibrant love. They had no compass or road map to share.
Nonetheless, I was determined to transform my family’s multi-generational legacy (desperate marriages, unfulfilled dreams, lost hope, devastating divorces) into a gift I could proudly pass on to my children. I’d seen too much despair, experienced enough hopelessness, suffered enough. I vowed not to be defined by my history. I would find true love and exquisitely care for my relationship. No complacency, no taking things for granted. I would chart conscious practices to navigate the evolving aspirations and challenges my partner and I were sure to encounter. I would learn a new way of being in love.
For more than 20 years, I have used my professional expertise to research and organize the knowledge, skills, and practices needed to be consciously competent when coupling with another. I’ve created a compass and a road map to vibrant love: Foolproof Dating and ProActive Partnership Retreats. In 2005, these tools guided me to my husband Joe. That spring, we took our first quarterly relationship retreat and faithfully continued learning, growing, and celebrating together – through 50 retreats – until his untimely death in 2017. I walk my talk.
I hold credentials in restorative justice, education, business administration, women’s studies, and life coaching. I keenly follow research and discoveries in the field of positive psychology and continue to weave these life-enhancing concepts into my coaching practice and personal life.
I am dedicated to mindfulness and intentional living, spiritual exploration, personal wellness, and community service. I embrace minimalism, enjoy dancing, reading, yoga, traveling, gardening, cooking, and time with family and friends.
I welcome your comments and questions, and would be delighted to support your quest to live in love.