Does your relationship feed your soul and light your fire? Is it joyful and fulfilling? How well does it respond to challenges and opportunities?
ProActive Partnership Retreats establish an ongoing practice of mutual discovery and commitment renewal. Come learn specific skills and solidify habits that help you maintain a self-renewing, vibrant love relationship.
What does it do?
FULFILLING, RESPONSIVE RELATIONSHIPS
Fulfilling, responsive relationships adapt to change and support us as we meet the unexpected ups and downs of life. Too often, the initial commitments partners make to one another don’t keep pace with the unexpected opportunities and challenges that life inevitably presents. ProActive Partnership Retreats ensure that partners habitually revisit and incrementally adjust how they do life together so that needs are addressed and opportunities are optimized. That’s fulfilling!
ONGOING MUTUAL DISCOVERY
Ongoing mutual discovery is essential to your love life. As you and your partner evolve and grow over time, your partnership needs to adapt or you’ll outgrow it. With each ProActive Partnership Retreat, you and your partner will explore what you’re learning about your needs and aspirations – individually and as a couple. You’ll regularly reaffirm your values and tailor your goals to serve the people you are today and the people you intend to become.
COMMITMENT RENEWAL
What are the explicit commitments that define your relationship? Are you both working from the same “operating agreement?” ProActive Partnership Retreats provide designated time and space each quarter for you to update your understanding of what your relationship needs to thrive. You’ll negotiate mutual agreements that strengthen bonds of trust and affection and take the guess work out of “How are we doing?”
So how does it work?
Whenever you and your partner come together to talk about the things that matter most – to resolve differences, share dreams and plan your future – you’ll want to approach the conversation mindfully. You’ll want to be fully present and bring your best self to the table. That’s what people do when they want to live an intentional life. When you practice quarterly retreats, you regularly set aside the time and space you need for relationship success.
Support Material
A printed retreat guide walks you through each quarter’s conversations and serves as a record of your agreements, visions, and goals. Additionally, well-curated support material is recommended to complement new content each quarter. Resources include relevant articles, books, pod casts, and TED talks as well as supplemental documents such as the one available below.


The Creating Sacred Retreat Space PDF offers a practical set of guidelines to ensure that your important conversations remain safe, respectful, and productive. These guidelines are foundational to the ProActive Partnership Retreat process. How do they compare with the way you and your partner typically address challenges?
Creating Sacred Retreat Space
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ProActive Partnership Retreats are not for you if …
- Your goal is to fix your partner
- You like to avoid self-discovery, personal growth, and accountability
- You enjoy the “drama and romance” of fighting and making up with your partner
- You can’t leave work, unplug social media, and turn off your phone for one weekend each quarter
- You’re not interested in frank and loving conversations with your partner that focus on growing your lives together
- You’d prefer not to be aware of deal-breaking issues in your relationship until it’s too late
- You’d rather be right than be happy